Does marriage change love?

Does marriage change Love?

I glance around at the older couples and wonder what keeps their marriage alive?

I frequently have an urge to go up and inquire from them. Seeing them still being all lovey-dovey and holding hands, sharing a drink and kissing each other every 5 minutes. Who knows how many children and grandchildren they have, maybe even great-grand children? After so many years of marriage for them, how do they carry on being like this? What keeps their marriage alive? What keeps the spark there from the time they got married?

The love that new couples have for each other is incredible! We girls, especially, think that this is going to last eternally. We think that this guy is going to carry on worshipping the ground we walk on forever. Well think again girls!!! You are so in love, you cannot wait to get to the altar.

I sit and think of the high divorce rate and wonder if those people also had this love before they got married and did they also think that this is going to last forever?? It's frightening if u really think about it.

Anyways after the honeymoon phase is over, the couple starts to adjust to each other. That requires a lot of patience and also tolerance. I believe that you only know a person once you live with them. Before marriage you still impressing each other and doing what the other loves. After the vows are taken, things slowly start to change. There isn't new things for your partner to discover anymore. Arguments start taking place for ridiculous things. You need to learn how to compromise and negotiate because you cannot run out of the house anymore when one of you gets upset because that is your house now. Everything in your life changes as you grow older and go through life. When you first get married it's new, exciting, and full of hopes and dreams. Every marriage must go through a rocky patch or two. Depending on the underlying strength of the bond between the two spouses, some come through it while others suffer a divorce.

Most marriages take strain after a new addition comes in the family. The woman doesn't look or feel the same, never mind act the same. I mean she has a huge responsibility after all. Her body changes, her hormones are all over the place, and it's not just the two of you anymore. The way she looks will obviously change. The guy feels left out because his wife is not giving him all her attention. The so-called date-night that everyone says couples with children should do, hardly happens for most couples. The old romance is lost. Before you got married, and maybe a few months after that, you used to touch and hug your partner all the time? What has changed? Are you tired of them already? Or have you just seen the true person inside them, the person that you never saw while dating???

So does love change after marriage? Is it because people get married for all the wrong reasons? Or do you just need to make room in your life to adjust having someone living with you???